TO MY COLLEAGUES AND DR. SHEPHARD

 

Firstly, I would to give thanks to Dr. Shephard for working diligently with me, as I engaged in meeting the goals in the class. What I truly, admire about Dr. Shephard was, she didn’t give up on me, we stayed in constant contact, and not one time did she mention dropping me, from her class, and I thank you from the bottom of my HEART. Colleagues, I want you to no, these 8 weeks haven’t been easy for me but, I give Glory to God for allowing me to interact with each one of, you whether it was on the “Blog or Discussion Board” reading the postings, and sharing the comments.

The suggestions you gave lead to me being a better “Competent Communicator, and doing the last 8 weeks I was able to use “Collaborative Skills with a new team of doctors. Again I thank each one of, you for your prayers. I pray each one’s success as, we move towards our “Specializations. My “Specialization” is How Adults Learn, and I hope to meet you again on August 27, 2015 and if, not I wish each one the best in their endives.

If, anyone would like to stay in contact with me, the best way is by emailing me at:

Lawana.edwards@waldenu.edu

ADJOURING

The groups I’ve had the opportunity to work on were my Church, Block Club in the community, and working on a group project while taking courses in my Bachelor’s semester. I can admit out of, those 3 groups which, I was an active member the hardest one to say good –bye to was the group project I was working on with 6 colleagues and it ended up with only 2 young men and myself. The 2 young men were older than me, and treated me as though I was their sister. We would communicate on the phone every Wednesday and I would do three to put all of us on the phone.

Also, we three agreed before discussing our project that, we would begin with a short prayer which I lead and prayed before hanging up the phone with them. Although, there were times we disagreed but, came to a medium and kept on with our project. I always say, one has to disagree to agree some times. I haven’t work on any project in my Master’s Program. The only thing thus so far is doing the last 8 weeks of our Master’s course is to write an appreciation to our colleagues in the blog to state how we appreciate one another.

Adjourning is an essential part for me because; it gives me a chance to view all the accomplishments and goals I’ve made from my Bachelor’s Degree 2014 to receiving my Master’s Degree in 2016 which, I set out to do.

I would like to say although; at times it’s been sort of tense at times but, we all  hung in there to graduate, and I will be able to meet my colleagues which, I had the pleasure of, interacting with during discussions and blogging.

 

MANAGING CONFLICTS

Today I found myself having a “Disagreement” with my husband on where, I

would like to eat. As I stated to Tracie in her blog this happens to be an ongoing

situation due to he wants to take me out for breakfast, lunch and dinner due to I’ve

been in the hospital for 3 weeks, and he knows I want some real FOOD. He never

choose where to eat because if, the food tastes bad it would end up being my fault

due to I choose the restaurant. So, this allows to us disagreeing with one another

I’m beginning to think why go bother to go out to eat and his happens all the time.

I work on how to handle Conflicts and Disagreements. Below are a few tips.

Handling Conflicts one must: Listen for what is felt as well as said. ...

·        Make conflict resolution the priority rather than winning or "being right."

·        Focus on the present. ...

·        Pick your battles. ...

·        Be willing to forgive. ...

·        Know when to let something go.

·        maintain professionalism

·        We've all heard the old saying about "disagreeing without being disagreeable"

·        5: Recognize and avoid "straw man" arguments

·        Watch what you say

EVALUATING COMMUNICATION                                          

 

I decided to ask my husband and friend to do an assessment on how; they feel about how I communicate. Upon taking the test my husband said, I project myself very well and very well understood but, sometimes come off harsh at times. My colleague agreed with him as well. As they finish the test it stated just what, my husband and colleague applied. They both scored me in the Verbal Aggressiveness Scale level as being “Moderate level”. What surprise me was score in Communication Anxiety Inventory when, I took the test myself.

I scored a 59 which is at the “Moderate level. In reading the reason why, it states, that I’m somewhat concern about a number of, communication contexts, but probably not all of them. Also, stated this level was the mid – point level of, communication anxiety and it is called “Situational”. Therefore, I need further information on “Situational Anxiety” to find out what it meant. In reading a short article it stated, Situational Anxiety “is the communication apprehension created by a unique combination of, influences generated by audience, time and context McCroskey, J. C., & Beatty, M. J. (1984). For example, I know what to present to my audience but, would stand straight in front of, then and be nervous but, with a small group I’m alright, and I believe this was a result of , me waiting for other speakers to come whom were running behind schedule. Therefore, this was and consider being “Situational Anxiety for me but, I made it through with the presentation. The insights I learn was ones should attempt to get acquaint with others first due to making assumptions because, him / her can be seen in a different light. This statement to me it’s better to have a face to face contact. I also, took the quiz in our text O’Hair & Wiemann (2015, p.46), which, was the Cognition Scale, and I scored a 52score meant I am thinker and self – motivated and capable of applying thinking skills within a variety of situations.

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COMMUNICATING EFFECTIVELY

 

Do you find yourself communicating differently with people from different groups and cultures?

Yes, a mother when communicating with my son and grandson, I tend to be firm in a loving way but, it’s appropriative but, still in all I’m more relax with, my family and friends due to I’m being accept for me. As a Director I have to use different straggles such as; establishing trust and understanding, and I schedule formal meeting with parents and staff.

Three strategies you could use to help you communicate more effectively.

1.     Put on your “real person” hat. And take off your “corporate person/executive” hat. The fact is, not many people are deeply inspired by the pieces of communication that their companies put out. Much of it ignores one of the most important truths of communication — and especially communication in the early 21st century: be real. “Corporate speak” comes off hollow and lacking in meaning. Authentic messages from you will help employees see the challenges and opportunities as you see them and understand and care about the direction in which you’re trying to take the company.

2.     I would use the “Platinum Rule” Treat others the way you want to be treated.

3.     Show respect for one’s Cultural because; their cultural is just as important as yours.

 

 

SURRENDER DECTIVE BENSON

 

          The episode I decide to watch was Law In Order Special Victims Unit on USA channel 124 “Surrender Detective Benson”. The characters playing in the movie were awesome and their names are:

·        Detective Ice – T

·        Detective Mariska Hargrtay ( as Oliva Benson)

·        Danny Pino

·        Richard Belzer

·        William Lewis (the kidnaper / rapist )

They are a group of detectives working as a mighty team trying to locate one of their missing partners that was kidnapped by “William Lewis”. As they work in groups to find their partner, there facial expression to angry, scared for Benson, disbelief, not certain, and wondering why. In this episode when William Lewis was a child, his father’s girlfriend rapes him, and now has an obsession for Detective Benson. He captures her and place duct taped hands, feet and mouth, placed Detective Benson in a van to attempt to rape her. Based on the nonverbal her teammates facial expressions show fear, danger as, they use maps to trace places the kidnaper has taken her.

Detective Benson has a confident group of, colleagues that sault out all avenues of where a kidnaper / rapist would take her, and that he would be found. Although, Detective Benson mouth was duct taped and hand – cuff to an iron bed rail. She was very angry, frightens, and scared for her life. No, because, I would have not really took the time to caught all of, their reactions. I only am looking for certain parts such as facial expressions and not gestures such as, hand movements or other actions.

 Once her rapist / kidnaper was caught her co – workers shows a sign of, being relief, and extremely satisfied that Detective Benson was captured without no other danger or harm place upon her. As a professional in the early childhood field, when childhood is in place in our care, we need to very attentive to their actions due to some children communicate nonverbal and not verbal. Watching out for gestures gives clues to us in order to give feedback to their parent, other family members and colleagues / staff.

COMPETENT COMMUNICATION

          The person I feel demonstrates competent communication is my “Mom / Pastor”. My mom was an English professor in the 1950’s and begins pastoring in 1980. She speaks in a soft tone, she never changes her posture, she has excellent eye contact with her audience and when speaking to others individually, and doesn’t mind repeating herself.  If, there’s something you missed or didn’t understand her only requirement is waiting until I’m finish speaking because, I maybe answering your question while I’m talking.

          As an professional in the early childhood field, I feel when speaking to the children and parents we serve giving them eye to eye contract, keeping ones composure and listening to what each other has to say, and not stopping the person in mid sentences will allow them to be an effective communicator.