EVALUATING COMMUNICATION                                          

 

I decided to ask my husband and friend to do an assessment on how; they feel about how I communicate. Upon taking the test my husband said, I project myself very well and very well understood but, sometimes come off harsh at times. My colleague agreed with him as well. As they finish the test it stated just what, my husband and colleague applied. They both scored me in the Verbal Aggressiveness Scale level as being “Moderate level”. What surprise me was score in Communication Anxiety Inventory when, I took the test myself.

I scored a 59 which is at the “Moderate level. In reading the reason why, it states, that I’m somewhat concern about a number of, communication contexts, but probably not all of them. Also, stated this level was the mid – point level of, communication anxiety and it is called “Situational”. Therefore, I need further information on “Situational Anxiety” to find out what it meant. In reading a short article it stated, Situational Anxiety “is the communication apprehension created by a unique combination of, influences generated by audience, time and context McCroskey, J. C., & Beatty, M. J. (1984). For example, I know what to present to my audience but, would stand straight in front of, then and be nervous but, with a small group I’m alright, and I believe this was a result of , me waiting for other speakers to come whom were running behind schedule. Therefore, this was and consider being “Situational Anxiety for me but, I made it through with the presentation. The insights I learn was ones should attempt to get acquaint with others first due to making assumptions because, him / her can be seen in a different light. This statement to me it’s better to have a face to face contact. I also, took the quiz in our text O’Hair & Wiemann (2015, p.46), which, was the Cognition Scale, and I scored a 52score meant I am thinker and self – motivated and capable of applying thinking skills within a variety of situations.

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COMMUNICATING EFFECTIVELY

 

Do you find yourself communicating differently with people from different groups and cultures?

Yes, a mother when communicating with my son and grandson, I tend to be firm in a loving way but, it’s appropriative but, still in all I’m more relax with, my family and friends due to I’m being accept for me. As a Director I have to use different straggles such as; establishing trust and understanding, and I schedule formal meeting with parents and staff.

Three strategies you could use to help you communicate more effectively.

1.     Put on your “real person” hat. And take off your “corporate person/executive” hat. The fact is, not many people are deeply inspired by the pieces of communication that their companies put out. Much of it ignores one of the most important truths of communication — and especially communication in the early 21st century: be real. “Corporate speak” comes off hollow and lacking in meaning. Authentic messages from you will help employees see the challenges and opportunities as you see them and understand and care about the direction in which you’re trying to take the company.

2.     I would use the “Platinum Rule” Treat others the way you want to be treated.

3.     Show respect for one’s Cultural because; their cultural is just as important as yours.

 

 

SURRENDER DECTIVE BENSON

 

          The episode I decide to watch was Law In Order Special Victims Unit on USA channel 124 “Surrender Detective Benson”. The characters playing in the movie were awesome and their names are:

·        Detective Ice – T

·        Detective Mariska Hargrtay ( as Oliva Benson)

·        Danny Pino

·        Richard Belzer

·        William Lewis (the kidnaper / rapist )

They are a group of detectives working as a mighty team trying to locate one of their missing partners that was kidnapped by “William Lewis”. As they work in groups to find their partner, there facial expression to angry, scared for Benson, disbelief, not certain, and wondering why. In this episode when William Lewis was a child, his father’s girlfriend rapes him, and now has an obsession for Detective Benson. He captures her and place duct taped hands, feet and mouth, placed Detective Benson in a van to attempt to rape her. Based on the nonverbal her teammates facial expressions show fear, danger as, they use maps to trace places the kidnaper has taken her.

Detective Benson has a confident group of, colleagues that sault out all avenues of where a kidnaper / rapist would take her, and that he would be found. Although, Detective Benson mouth was duct taped and hand – cuff to an iron bed rail. She was very angry, frightens, and scared for her life. No, because, I would have not really took the time to caught all of, their reactions. I only am looking for certain parts such as facial expressions and not gestures such as, hand movements or other actions.

 Once her rapist / kidnaper was caught her co – workers shows a sign of, being relief, and extremely satisfied that Detective Benson was captured without no other danger or harm place upon her. As a professional in the early childhood field, when childhood is in place in our care, we need to very attentive to their actions due to some children communicate nonverbal and not verbal. Watching out for gestures gives clues to us in order to give feedback to their parent, other family members and colleagues / staff.

COMPETENT COMMUNICATION

          The person I feel demonstrates competent communication is my “Mom / Pastor”. My mom was an English professor in the 1950’s and begins pastoring in 1980. She speaks in a soft tone, she never changes her posture, she has excellent eye contact with her audience and when speaking to others individually, and doesn’t mind repeating herself.  If, there’s something you missed or didn’t understand her only requirement is waiting until I’m finish speaking because, I maybe answering your question while I’m talking.

          As an professional in the early childhood field, I feel when speaking to the children and parents we serve giving them eye to eye contract, keeping ones composure and listening to what each other has to say, and not stopping the person in mid sentences will allow them to be an effective communicator.