Saturday, August 1, 2015


MANAGING CONFLICTS

Today I found myself having a “Disagreement” with my husband on where, I

would like to eat. As I stated to Tracie in her blog this happens to be an ongoing

situation due to he wants to take me out for breakfast, lunch and dinner due to I’ve

been in the hospital for 3 weeks, and he knows I want some real FOOD. He never

choose where to eat because if, the food tastes bad it would end up being my fault

due to I choose the restaurant. So, this allows to us disagreeing with one another

I’m beginning to think why go bother to go out to eat and his happens all the time.

I work on how to handle Conflicts and Disagreements. Below are a few tips.

Handling Conflicts one must: Listen for what is felt as well as said. ...

·        Make conflict resolution the priority rather than winning or "being right."

·        Focus on the present. ...

·        Pick your battles. ...

·        Be willing to forgive. ...

·        Know when to let something go.

·        maintain professionalism

·        We've all heard the old saying about "disagreeing without being disagreeable"

·        5: Recognize and avoid "straw man" arguments

·        Watch what you say

3 comments:

  1. Lawana,
    I think many couples have this problem. The husband asks the wife where she wants to go and she answers, "I don't care." Then, if the husband suggests a place, she says, "Oh, I don't want to go there." I actually saw a sign of a restaurant posted on Facebook called "I Don't Care." haha
    I think this particular conflict arises because neither party wants to be responsible for picking a place, and/or food, that the other will not enjoy - or is not in the mood to eat. I have been in the car with my daughter and son-in-law when they have this "discussion", he will literally sit at the end of the drive way and tell her to at least narrow it down to a specific direction. (My husband and I used to have similar conversations too.)

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  2. Lawana,
    I think many couples have this problem. The husband asks the wife where she wants to go and she answers, "I don't care." Then, if the husband suggests a place, she says, "Oh, I don't want to go there." I actually saw a sign of a restaurant posted on Facebook called "I Don't Care." haha
    I think this particular conflict arises because neither party wants to be responsible for picking a place, and/or food, that the other will not enjoy - or is not in the mood to eat. I have been in the car with my daughter and son-in-law when they have this "discussion", he will literally sit at the end of the drive way and tell her to at least narrow it down to a specific direction. (My husband and I used to have similar conversations too.)

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  3. Hi Lawana,

    I am glad someone else shared a disagreement with their husband :) Many couples always 'battle' over where to go to eat. I like the resolutions you have, especially the one "pick your battles". I think this is important in many situation because there are many things we can disagree about. However, it is important to compromise or reach for some people's opinions a little more. I enjoyed reading your post and am glad that you are out of the hospital. Thank you for sharing!

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