EVALUATING COMMUNICATION                                          

 

I decided to ask my husband and friend to do an assessment on how; they feel about how I communicate. Upon taking the test my husband said, I project myself very well and very well understood but, sometimes come off harsh at times. My colleague agreed with him as well. As they finish the test it stated just what, my husband and colleague applied. They both scored me in the Verbal Aggressiveness Scale level as being “Moderate level”. What surprise me was score in Communication Anxiety Inventory when, I took the test myself.

I scored a 59 which is at the “Moderate level. In reading the reason why, it states, that I’m somewhat concern about a number of, communication contexts, but probably not all of them. Also, stated this level was the mid – point level of, communication anxiety and it is called “Situational”. Therefore, I need further information on “Situational Anxiety” to find out what it meant. In reading a short article it stated, Situational Anxiety “is the communication apprehension created by a unique combination of, influences generated by audience, time and context McCroskey, J. C., & Beatty, M. J. (1984). For example, I know what to present to my audience but, would stand straight in front of, then and be nervous but, with a small group I’m alright, and I believe this was a result of , me waiting for other speakers to come whom were running behind schedule. Therefore, this was and consider being “Situational Anxiety for me but, I made it through with the presentation. The insights I learn was ones should attempt to get acquaint with others first due to making assumptions because, him / her can be seen in a different light. This statement to me it’s better to have a face to face contact. I also, took the quiz in our text O’Hair & Wiemann (2015, p.46), which, was the Cognition Scale, and I scored a 52score meant I am thinker and self – motivated and capable of applying thinking skills within a variety of situations.

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COMMUNICATING EFFECTIVELY

 

Do you find yourself communicating differently with people from different groups and cultures?

Yes, a mother when communicating with my son and grandson, I tend to be firm in a loving way but, it’s appropriative but, still in all I’m more relax with, my family and friends due to I’m being accept for me. As a Director I have to use different straggles such as; establishing trust and understanding, and I schedule formal meeting with parents and staff.

Three strategies you could use to help you communicate more effectively.

1.     Put on your “real person” hat. And take off your “corporate person/executive” hat. The fact is, not many people are deeply inspired by the pieces of communication that their companies put out. Much of it ignores one of the most important truths of communication — and especially communication in the early 21st century: be real. “Corporate speak” comes off hollow and lacking in meaning. Authentic messages from you will help employees see the challenges and opportunities as you see them and understand and care about the direction in which you’re trying to take the company.

2.     I would use the “Platinum Rule” Treat others the way you want to be treated.

3.     Show respect for one’s Cultural because; their cultural is just as important as yours.

 

 

SURRENDER DECTIVE BENSON

 

          The episode I decide to watch was Law In Order Special Victims Unit on USA channel 124 “Surrender Detective Benson”. The characters playing in the movie were awesome and their names are:

·        Detective Ice – T

·        Detective Mariska Hargrtay ( as Oliva Benson)

·        Danny Pino

·        Richard Belzer

·        William Lewis (the kidnaper / rapist )

They are a group of detectives working as a mighty team trying to locate one of their missing partners that was kidnapped by “William Lewis”. As they work in groups to find their partner, there facial expression to angry, scared for Benson, disbelief, not certain, and wondering why. In this episode when William Lewis was a child, his father’s girlfriend rapes him, and now has an obsession for Detective Benson. He captures her and place duct taped hands, feet and mouth, placed Detective Benson in a van to attempt to rape her. Based on the nonverbal her teammates facial expressions show fear, danger as, they use maps to trace places the kidnaper has taken her.

Detective Benson has a confident group of, colleagues that sault out all avenues of where a kidnaper / rapist would take her, and that he would be found. Although, Detective Benson mouth was duct taped and hand – cuff to an iron bed rail. She was very angry, frightens, and scared for her life. No, because, I would have not really took the time to caught all of, their reactions. I only am looking for certain parts such as facial expressions and not gestures such as, hand movements or other actions.

 Once her rapist / kidnaper was caught her co – workers shows a sign of, being relief, and extremely satisfied that Detective Benson was captured without no other danger or harm place upon her. As a professional in the early childhood field, when childhood is in place in our care, we need to very attentive to their actions due to some children communicate nonverbal and not verbal. Watching out for gestures gives clues to us in order to give feedback to their parent, other family members and colleagues / staff.

COMPETENT COMMUNICATION

          The person I feel demonstrates competent communication is my “Mom / Pastor”. My mom was an English professor in the 1950’s and begins pastoring in 1980. She speaks in a soft tone, she never changes her posture, she has excellent eye contact with her audience and when speaking to others individually, and doesn’t mind repeating herself.  If, there’s something you missed or didn’t understand her only requirement is waiting until I’m finish speaking because, I maybe answering your question while I’m talking.

          As an professional in the early childhood field, I feel when speaking to the children and parents we serve giving them eye to eye contract, keeping ones composure and listening to what each other has to say, and not stopping the person in mid sentences will allow them to be an effective communicator.

PROFESSIONAL HOPES & GOALS

 

          The one hope I have, when working with children and families who come from diverse backgrounds is to establish a relationship that’s trustworthy, communicate effectively, and be flexible and understanding to their needs. In doing so, children will become lifelong learners. Also, the one goal I would like to set for the early childhood field related to the issues of diversity, equity and social justice is be more aware of the knowledge that surrounds the issues related to “Diversity”.

          I would like to give that’s to each of my colleagues and professor for barring with me with while, I struggled to get my “Discussions and Blogs” in for someone to comment on. I want you all to know it’s been my pleasure to work with each of you, and I hope we all will have a chance to meet in other courses together again. I don’t like good – byes therefore, I hope to see you soon and much success in your next coming courses.

WELCOMING FAMILIES FROM AROUND THE WORLD

The county of origin which, I chose the family comes from “Haiti.” I was informed Kenyatta Jacques (name I will use for the little girl) will be moving to the United States on Monday, and her parents will be placing her in my Daycare Center. Kenyatta will be in my classroom with peers of her age. Listed below are 5 ways which, I will provide comfort for Mr. Mrs. Jacques and their daughter Kenyatta.

1.     I would go to the library on the weekend and research much as I could about the family’s country. I will view things such as; their culture, religion, and identify the language of the family.

2.     Create a welcome policy which, her parents will fill out. In the policy there would be questions relate d to her culture, language , likes and dislikes to give me  a better insight on how to address her needs, and ways her parents aspect me to adhere to her needs. This way I can implement into my curriculum.

3.     Provide appropriate books and materials for Kenyatta to use.

4.     I would create a bulletin with photos and sayings that represent children from all “Diverse Cultures” including Kenyatta.

5.     I would ask Kenyatta‘s parents if, they would like to volunteer in the classroom. When parents become involve it shows their child they are interest in their learning. Also, it’s another way for the parent to discuss their culture.

In doing the preparations for Mr. & Mrs. Jacques, and their daughter, It was my plan to establish effective communication skills, build an relationship / bond, and provide tools for Kenyatta to use in order to be an “Lifelong Learner”.

 

 

                                             

THE PERSONAL SIDE OF BIAS, PREJUICE, AND OPPRESSION

The incident I would like to share with my colleagues on “Prejudice” which was witness by my cousin and me. I drove her to Walgreens to pick up her meds, and as I begin to park the truck I notice her 2 sons and 3 of their friends entering the store. The boys weren’t a where of us being in the store. Their mom was at the counter and I was sitting near the pharmacy waiting on her. Lisa (I will refer to my cousin as Lisa).

Lisa so, happen to look – up in the mirror above the ceiling and saw this White officer following the boys from isle to isle. Lisa text my cell as said, “Girl look I don’t believe this”. So, the boys still have notice us in Walgreens as of yet. The boys went down the chips isle first and then the candy isle and now begin to look at some pops. These boys still didn’t notice the officer. As the officer was following the boys, we followed the officer to see if, he was going to approach hers children and their friends.

 Lisa goes back to the pharmacy to grab the meds while, I continue to keep my eyes on what’s going on. In my eye sight the officer was targeting 5 African American young boys, and not to mention he did not once take his eyes of these boys. One of her sons decides to purchase cookies and candy, and the others didn’t buy anything. Lisa yelled out to her younger son, “Do not buy anything out of this Walgreen’s “! The officer finally said, to the other 4 boys if, you are not purchasing anything you need to leave the store.”

 Lisa calls out to her other son and tells him and his friends to come here”. Lisa explains first to the officer that while, she was waiting on her meds, he had been following them since they arrived in the store as though were, the only Blacks in the store. Lisa went on to tell this officer “All Black’s do not steal” and also, she begin to recite what, out parents and grandparents taught us to the officer which, was “Train up a child in the way he should go; and he is old he will never depart from it.”

I could not believe this, the officer replied so quickly, since “I’ve been working here at Walgreens, all I’ve seen is “Black children and their parents and older people coming in here taking what’s not there’s.” Lisa told the office my boys will never come back into this store due you have “Racial Profile” her boys. I truly believe if; I didn’t take Lisa to Walgreens this officer would have attempted to arrest these boys. Black males are being arrest everyday here in Chicago for crimes they haven’t committed but, it’s said, “we have a justice system and we are all created equal, and to be honest I still say “No are not created as an equal”. This last statement is only my opinion.